Unfortunately we live in a time that glorifies disobedience to our parents. Whether that is Bart Simpson or the countless movies that have been made. Whilst there will be disagreement between us and our parents it is important to continue to speak to them with love and compassion. Ask those who have lost one or more of them how they would give anything to spend some more time with them. The status of our parents and in particular our mothers is enshrined in the Quran and ahadith.
Allah Ta’ala mentions in the Qur’an:
“And we have enjoined on man (to be dutiful and good) to his parents. His mother bore him in weakness and hardship upon weakness and hardship, and his weaning is in two years – give thanks to Me and to your parents. Unto Me is the final destination.”
It is also mentioned in a Hadith:
A person said, “Allah’s Messenger, who amongst the people is most deserving of my good treatment? He said: Your mother, again your mother, again your mother, then your father, then your nearest relatives according to the order (of nearness)”.
It is clear from the above mentioned statements that a mother deserves great respect. The mother undergoes great hardships to nurture the child. When the child is incapable of doing anything, the mother is there to look after him. She spends restless nights to look after her child. Every time the child asks for something, the mother is there to comfort the child. The mother does so much for her child but unfortunately, when the child is grown up, he has the audacity to bad-mouth his mother. All of the mother’s sacrifices are taken for granted and long forgotten.
The child must be aware of the etiquettes when dealing with parents. Islam prohibits even the slightest bit of disrespect towards the parents. It is incumbent upon us to endure any exercise restraint when dealing with parents. Our only concern should be to become the coolness of their eyes and see the happiness on their faces. Allah Ta’ala mentioned in the Qur’an:
And lower to them the wing of humility out of mercy and say, “My Lord, have mercy upon them as they brought me up [when I was] small.
And those who say, “Our Lord, grant us from among our wives and offspring comfort to our eyes and make us an example for the righteous.
May Allah SWT give us the guidance to treat our parents well.
By Rahil Mumtaz